These are just a few words I hold dear to my heart and the type of person I set out to be. These are a few words I try to instill in my children as well. These are a few words I look for in people who eventually become friends. These are a few words that seem to be lacking in our society anymore. It makes being this type of person extremely hard and even harder to teach children to strive to be as they grow into their own person.
Why are these values not as important in our society anymore? There is so much competition in our society to be the best and to have the best. But does this make us the best person we can be? For me it doesn’t. I don’t care where a person went to school, what type of job they have, where they live, what their home looks like. None of that matters to me. What matters is that they show me their true self.
I spend much of my days instilling these values into my children. I pretty much preach to them the importance of being a good friend. I tell them how important it is to treat others the way they want to be treated. Now that all 3 are in school, our dinner conversations are all over the place with what happened in their little lives. I see how my influence is sometimes put to the back burner to their friends. But I have to say I know they hear me because when one says how someone did this and if they respond to what we (our family) view as inappropriate (big word in our home), I am not always the one to correct them. Poor things have their 2 other siblings to deal with. They know that they are always to be honest and that lying never gets them anywhere. Of course their lies are really not harmful but if they don’t learn now the value of being honest now, they never will.
I am determined that my children will hold these values dear to their heart even in a society that doesn’t. It makes me sad that they may get hurt in the process. I’m an adult and I’m still affected by people who don’t hold these values as important. I do my best to stay true to my values. I try my best to be a genuine person in everything I do. It’s now or never. I am almost 41 years old. The true me is what you see and what you get.