Sometimes I would like to stick my foot in my mouth. I know a lot of us feel that way after we say something we probably shouldn’t have or needed to be said. I seem to always feel the need, whenever I am asked about Hunter in regards to his age & grade, to ALWAYS say that I held him back and mention his speech delay.
I was just asked this past weekend from a fellow parent on his football team if he was in first grade. I should have simply answered with a yes and be done. But I answered with “Yes because I held him back.” Then after I said it, I not only wanted to kick myself but at the same time I wanted to give the reason why I held him back. I wanted them to know he is extremely smart and that I didn’t hold him back for sports either (yes I know people who have done this with their sons). I held him back because he has a speech delay.
It is no one’s business why my son is 8 yrs. old and in first grade. I know this and yet I still feel like I need to defend it or almost stick up for him or my reason. I think part of it is because I know that when people hear him speak and look at how big he is it may make people do a double take in their mind. And I know he is extremely aware of the fact that he should be ending second grade and not first grade. I think that reason bothers me just as much as it bothers him. Not because I am ashamed for him. But because I know kids can be cruel and I know how hard he works to be successful in school.
So from now on I am setting a good example for him, as well as my daughters, that we don’t always need to give a reason for things. It is OK to simply answer with a yes or a no. Hopefully they will learn sooner than I have that it doesn’t matter what others think all the time. What matters is being a good person on the inside and outside and treating others with respect and kindness.