Mom and Son Time

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With the girls both having an activity in the morning this week, I am getting so special time with my son.  This is very rare.  I rarely have just one of my children unless it is a school day.  So to say I am going to enjoy this opportunity is an understatement.

So I asked him what he wanted to do with the next 4 mornings without the girls and he immediately said he wanted Dunkin’ Donuts every morning, a trip to Dick’s to look at football stuff, and school shopping.  I almost fell over on the last one but I will take it.

What is your favorite thing to do with each of your children?

Making the Most of Summer

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I just keep thinking how time is slipping through my fingers and before I know it we will be starting school.  I love the structure that comes with a school year but at the same time we are so busy with everyone’s activities that we lose the much-needed time to connect some weeks.  I find the more stress I am under or if I am not my best emotionally, I tend to not be the best mom for my kids.

I want to make the best of these last days of summer to really connect as a family.  I found this 30 Day Challenge from iMOM.com and I am going to try it.  I learned a lot from the 3 Positives for 5 Days Challenge, so I am sure I will learn even more from this challenge as well.  I am just hoping it will help me to refocus on priorities that seem to get forgotten during the this thing called life.

Melts My Heart

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There is nothing like listening to your child talk about things that make them happy, people in their lives, etc.  Our neighbors had to move last December due to an unexpected job change.  My son and their son grew very close and were very lucky to be in the same class.  Every morning I would take them to the bus stop and after school and weekends they would rush to get some play time in.  When my son found out that the family was moving he took it very hard.

I remember the night before Christmas Eve, the moving truck pulled into their driveway.  The look on Hunter’s face was so heartbreaking.  He ran up to his room and just stared out the window and cried.  The days leading up to the move, he couldn’t look out the front door or window.  I remember the morning when they had to say good-bye.  I had to turn away because these two little boys were heartbroken about not being able to see each other every day.

Well today, Hunter got a special treat~our neighbors were in town and came to visit.  The boys played and it was like no time has passed.  The joy on their faces was just heartwarming.  But then the good-bye had to happen again.  They stood there and just looked at each other.  They both didn’t want to say good-bye and didn’t know how to say good-bye.  They wanted to hug but didn’t want to be “uncool”…they are boys you know.  So after a few moments, they did a manly handshake which then turned into a manly yet the sweetest moment~ they hugged.  It was a real hug filled with I am sure so many emotions.  Then like true boys began to create a special handshake.

And although Hunter loved spending time with his friend, he went to bed crying.  I love how this boy I am raising is a real boy but at the same time is not afraid to show his soft side.  I hope this continues as he grows into a young man and eventually into a man.  I love that he feels and shows what he is feeling without reservation.  Yes, he saves it for when he is in the privacy of his own home but he is not embarrassed to feel emotions.

Obsession

I have a new obsession.  It actually is a rediscovered obsession that I lost once my TV viewing was taken over by the Disney Channel and PBS.  But I am so glad it’s back!

I am obsessed with HGTV which for those who are not familiar with this channel consists of shows centered around homes!  I used to spend many Saturdays before kids watching it for hours and actually taking some of the decorating ideas and trying (keyword) to replicate in our first home.  I have even gotten the kids to start watching some of the shows.  It actually shows them how much work goes into owning a home and how expensive a simple renovation can be…LOVE this!

Well it has sparked my decorating bug as well as my oldest daughter’s.  I have always secretly wished I was able to decorate effortlessly from my own mind.  But I am a very visual person and I need to see it.  The two of us have been watching and then heading either online or to Pinterest for inspiration.

My oldest is now obsessed with updating her bedroom.  She has it in her little 10 yr. old mind that she would like to paint it, including an accent wall (which I have one in my bedroom), and wants a whole new bed!  She has my instant gratification gene and wants it done yesterday.  Unfortunately the whole concept of money and time doesn’t seem to be in her mindset yet….lol!  The bed she wants I would want at her age but the price tag well….not so much for a chance in 5 years she won’t like it.  So we have begun to take down things in her room and began to prep her walls for painting.  She has a vision and I love how she is helping me make it happen.  Now do you think I will be able to talk her out of a new bed?  Stay tuned!

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Do you have wishes you would like to do to your home?  If money was no object, what would you want to do to your home?

I have a short list~

1.  Sunroom

2.  Change the area in my basement that is traditional seating into seats for movie/TV watching

3.  Eat-in booth in my kitchen

4.  Stairs leading into my basement and upstairs all open (not very energy-efficient)

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5.  Outside~ pool with low maintenance landscape, fence, and my Achilles Heal-my deck- to be a happy place again

This is bad but as I am typing this, I am starting to go through every room in my home and can keep adding.  See I am obsessed!  I guess I will just focus on my 10 yr. old’s bedroom for now and hopefully get a way with just a desk instead of the amazing loft bed with a desk, and shelves all in one she wants!

 

4 Weeks Left!?!!

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Is it just me or did this summer completely fly by?  I was looking at the calendar and realized in 4 short weeks school will start!  I have no idea how this happened.  We have done nothing I had hoped to do yet.  Not that there was much planned because I really wanted this summer to be unstructured and to focus on the little things. And we have been doing just that.  A lot of swimming and spending quality time with their grandparents and sitting down every night at the table for dinner.  I have to say that is the one thing I miss when our life is constantly go-go-go~ sitting as a family for dinner every night. We have been able to have great conversations and uninterrupted family time during these meals.  And there has been that much complaining from Mr. Picky Eater either!

But I have so many other little things I wanted to do~

Beach Day

Movie outside

Make s’mores

Date Night with each of them

Sparklers (on my counter since the 4th of July weekend)

Time to make these last 4 weeks count!

Lunch For One

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I stepped out of my comfort zone and went to lunch alone.  I actually went to a restaurant (“quick service” style) and sat at a table alone and enjoyed a meal ALONE.  Yes I have eaten alone but usually I would eat in my van or it would be something I could keep doing errands at the same time.

I have seen people do this many times and for some reason the thought of dining alone in a place other than a bookstore or with a baby in a stroller, I have always felt extremely uncomfortable about it.  I imagined being stared at or something dumb.  I feared I wouldn’t know what to do while waiting for my food to come.  Yes I KNOW how dumb it is. People do this all the time.  But I wasn’t one of those people.

It was so refreshing and I felt whole new confidence in myself.  I had a little guilt because my doctor appointment was finished VERY early and I had plenty of time to pick up my younger children before having to get my oldest in time for her appointment.  But I knew I needed ME time and it was now or never.

And guess what?  No one stared at me!  Imagine that!!!!

I think I will be trying this more often.  Each time I will have to keep pushing myself to dine in restaurants where it won’t be so quick to get my food and maybe instead of lunch I will really get crazy and go out to dinner ALONE!  OK I am not quite ready for that but I will be soon enough.