As my kids get older, the quality time we have as a family and even just alone is a minimum. Each day someone has something going on that takes away from the other two. After a whirlwind first month of school and getting into our crazy schedule, I am seeing little lights at the end of little tunnels that were once very dark.
I love the time each week I get to have one-on-one time with each of my kids. By far my youngest gets the best quantity of my time since she has me to herself every afternoon. But it is during this time I get to see how she is maturing and changing each day. It is during these afternoons that I love to snuggle with her and let her be her.
I love my weekly dinner dates with my son. Yes it is usually McDonald’s but I will take a burger and fries with him over anything any day of the week. He is the only male in the house. He is the middle child. He is the one I feel I need to learn how to connect with the most since I am obviously not a male myself…ha! In our short little date, I find out so much about what is going on in his mind and his world. This is where I am hoping the lines of communication begins and he knows he can tell me anything.
And as my oldest is changing and trying to find her way as an almost “tween”, I live for our late night drive to and from her one dance class. I put my pride and guilt aside and recruited help on one night where it is just her and I. It gives us a chance to just have girl talk. I am not just mom but a confidant. I hesitate to use the word “friend” here. It is such a fine line to walk with any child. But I think (or hope) that keeping that line drawn will create a special and unique bond that is even better than a friendship. I see how she is entering into the years of struggling to find herself and to find where she fits in on top of peer pressure and everything else that comes with growing up and I am scared for her. I know I wouldn’t want to be growing up in this day and age. It is during this time, I see the amazing young lady she is and this is when she truly confides in me.
I am very proud of myself that I have been able to put aside my guilt, my pride, my desire to do it all aside. Because let’s face it I can’t and no one can. I am taking full advantage of my weekly dates more and more as each week passes because I see the small changes they make for each of them and for me.