Breath and Laugh

Although days are long and some days I may feel like I am never going to get through them, I have to say some of the days do provide a lot of laughs when all is said and done.

Yes at the moment when it is happening, I tend not to see the humor in the situation.  I tend to think:

Can’t I catch a break?

I have no time to deal with this

This is the worse thing ever (NO it is not)

May famous line~ Seriously?!??

And a lot of other things go through my mind that I probably shouldn’t share 😉

I just had one of those evenings this past week.  Spreading myself too thin but thinking how I have a handle on it. I wasn’t stressing.  I wasn’t snapping at the kids.  I was calm and cool.  Then the phone rings.  I get a call from my groomer asking me to remain calm and everything is ok. But I needed to come at get Mazy.  She had accidentally nipped her tail and it wouldn’t stop bleeding.  I could tell by her voice she was so upset. I just took a deep breath and did what I had to do.  Got my sitter to come over to stay with two of the kids, called the vet, got in touch with my hostess for the evening (I had a Thirty-One Show-30 min away), and left to get Mazy.

Get Mazy and after calming the groomer down and letting her know I was fine, dog was fine, these things happens, I left to go get Ella who had dance and head to the vet.  It was during that short 5 minute drive from the Groomers to the dance studio where I started to get stressed.  But I knew there was no reason to be.  but I was having one of those moments when IF things were different and I was not alone in this thing called life, I would still be heading to the Thirty-One Show and Ryan would be taking the kids along with the dog to the vet.  All would be fine.  MY life wouldn’t be disrupted.   It was one of my “DR” moments.  I’m allowed to have them.  Right?  YES I am.

The dog was fine.  Never knew anything happened to her.  The kids were fine.  My hostess was SO understanding and still had her party minus me (technology is a wonderful thing).  WE were all fine.

I don’t like when I allow trivial things get to me.  I don’t like to sweat the small stuff.  I know I am allowed to and I know things could have been worse.  But they weren’t~thank goodness.  This was one of those moments that even though it was an inconvenience it ended up be funny when all was said and done.

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Mazy is fine.  She is a hot mess with her half-groomed style going on and a pink gauze bandage at the end of her tail. The size of the bandage makes it look A LOT worse…it is just the very tip.  But that is what makes this inconvenience one of many that puts it in perspective and reminds me, staying calm and just going with what life throws at me is how I need to look at things.  It makes for a great story.  It made us all laugh.  It made me slow down.  It reminded me sometimes things will happen and you just have to go with it.  I say all this now until the next thing.  And there will be MANY next things.  But hopefully I will handle the next things the same way and if I don’t, it’s OK.  I am allowed those moments.

I Can’t Do It All

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I keep telling myself this but I still struggle with it.

I have been struggling with making a decision on whether or not to give my youngest the same opportunity as I did for my oldest.  And the same opportunity I denied my middle child.  I denied the opportunity to him because, just as the above quote says, I can’t do everything.  The difference and why I am struggling with my decision is the commitment factor.  I denied a similar opportunity to my son because the commitment level was so involved~ all day events EVERY week in addition to the one evening a week requirement. For my youngest it is simply a one evening commitment.  But her temperament can’t handle two evenings in a row doing an activity.

So why do I feel such guilt with knowing it would be a bad decision?

I simply need to face the fact that I am not super woman.  I can barely keep up with the everyday things I need to get done.  Adding another commitment will seriously add more stress than good.  So I need to keep repeating and accepting the above quote.  I need to know that saying no to things isn’t going to scar them (I really do know this).  I need to know my children are very fortunate to do the things they do and they don’t need to be over-scheduled.  It will not benefit them, me, or our family.  I need to know “mommy guilt” needs to be squashed and not part of decision-making.

No one can do it all.

Summer Sanity

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As summer approaches I am trying to get everything organized the best I can so when I have all 3 of the kids home for majority of the day, every day.  Do you come up with some sort of summer schedule?

I am trying to decide if it is something I need to try this summer.  I feel like I need to for a few reasons.

1.  Consistency

We all know how kids thrive on consistency.  Do I want the same thing every single day?  Absolutely not!  But I know there are things I want them to be held accountable for every single day.

2.  Sanity

I need to have something in place as some sort of guideline for my own sanity.  I can’t do a free for all every day this summer.  I can see it now.  And I can already start to feel the stress.

3.  Work

I work from home and I will need time to focus on clients as well as clients’ trips that are coming up. This will require some time throughout the day.  I know it will be adjustment for the kids.  But they need to know there will be times that they need to be self-sufficient and NOT fight or destroy the house while I work.

4.  Fun

I want so much to get back to having fun with my kids.  I just see the time passing me by and I don’t want to miss out on making fun memories.  And I don’t mean memories that require spending money either.  Just good ole fashion fun…play outside together, go to the creek, etc.

I think I am struggling with implementing this because it all looks great in theory but the work that needs to be put into it…I can be so lazy sometimes.  But aren’t we all?  But my kids are all changing in their own ways.  I see their changes affecting each other and the dynamics of our family. It happens. My children are close in age but it is starting to affect them because of maturity levels. Each of them are struggling in their own way to understand this too.  So I need to suck it up and put forth the effort or this summer is going to be a tough one.

What are some things all of you do to help make the summer enjoyable for everyone?