It has been a crazy few weeks in this house and trying to catch my breath has not been easy. Trying to fit everything in, be where you need to be, working commitments, kids’ activities, household necessities…you know every day life just doesn’t all seem to fit within a 24 hr. period. Then add 3 distinctly different kids into the mix and you have the perfect combination for the perfect storm.
How do you weather the storm?
I don’t think any of us know the answer. But I know many of us know how important it is to get through the storm.
I feel I am in the eye of the storm and until I get a handle on it, I will not get past it.
As a new month begins, a new outlook and new hope to get through this recurring storm within our home.
Each day needs to be a fresh start.
Each day needs to have a focus.
Each day needs to have less yelling and more calmness.
Each day needs to have a positive.
Each day needs the attention.
Each day needs me to be present.
Each day needs forgiveness.
We all need an each day to weather any storm.
Finally I am entering into the first of my favorite seasons…Fall! There is nothing like waking up to the crisp cool air in the morning to make my day. And the colors….I LOVE Fall foliage! LOVE it! Fall just makes me happy.
What is not to love?!?? Happy Fall!!!!
When you have more than one child they fight but for the most part get along. When you have more than two children you usually have two who just are at each other all the time and/or they switch partners in crime. I have two that seem to be at each other ALL THE TIME!
These two make me crazy! There is no way around it. They fight constantly and know how to push each other’s buttons to the point of screaming matches and physical fighting. I can’t drive home with them without a fight starting or one of them making the other cry. And you know it’s bad when the queen of moodiness can’t take it either!
They have been like this since the moment we brought Gracie home from the hospital. Ella was all over her and always wanting to be around her, play with her, and just love her up. Hunter…yeah he wanted no parts of her. I couldn’t get him to hold her yet alone touch her. It was like she was invisible to him or he was just waiting for her to disappear.
I remember when Ella started school and she would be gone all day. Hunter would miss her terribly and ask for her. He would complain about not having anyone to play with and would play alone. I always would remind him how he had Gracie to play with and he would just ignore her. It wasn’t until a year or so that he actually started to play with her. But he will still choose to play alone than to play with her.
I know deep down they love each other. I know Hunter would protect her and Gracie would do the same for him. But man these two really know how to get under each other’s skin and everyone else’s. I hope this phase of not being able to be in the same room, van, or space with each other ends FAST! The constant bickering is driving me insane!
We are into the second week of school and the second week of my “Back to School Plan”. I wanted to have something in place to make our mornings as stress free- no mostly fight free- as possible. I, also, wanted a more effective way for “chores” to be accomplished before school. My kids are early risers and so there are some mornings where they literally have over an hour and half until it’s time for us to head to the bus stop. And I learned from the past that once extracurricular activities start, our after school times/evenings are broken up which results in ME doing it.
The plan isn’t this amazing plan that works miracles! There are no cutsie images. I don’t even have a color-coded chart. It is SIMPLE. They each have a mini clip board. I have a list of things they must do before the TV can be turned on (this is the only electronic allowed in the morning). Included on the list is ONE chore. That’s it….ONE chore. It is a simple 5 minute max chore.
Is it working? To a degree. I was hoping I wouldn’t have to remind them (ha!) and I was hoping for continuity. I will settle for what I have seen so far~
Everyone is dressed.
Everyone has eaten breakfast (AND they help each other).
Everyone has their teeth and hair brushed.
Everyone’s bag is packed.
Everyone STILL needs to be reminded of the ONE CHORE.
Baby steps. That is what I keep telling myself. Baby steps.
That boy who I adore and love with all my heart is back and making all efforts to make meal time easier pretty much impossible! I took him to the grocery store with me hoping he would be inspired or something would inspire him. You know what I’m talking about…that food that you completely forgot about or that food that you never would have thought to use as a meal option. But none of that happened. Nothing inspired him and the old “go-to” food options are now not even an option.
I have let this stress me out for the last time this past week. I am over wasting time and energy trying to come up with ideas for him to take to school for lunch. He has been served his “rights” and he now is in control of whether he eats or not. This can go one of two ways~ work in my favor and finally start eating like any other 8 yr. old boy or I will have one grumpy and hungry 8 yr. old who will try to break me with his meltdowns because he’s “starving”!
If there was ever a time I needed to be clone, my kids’ Open House Night was definitely one of them! But some how I made it to all 3 classes and only missed most of Gracie’s teacher’s talk. But in my defense, my other 2 children had her and so I know what is expected and that Gracie is fortunate to have her. I really just wanted to get there to get a hug and catch up! But it was pretty funny when I came in REALLY late and the looks I got.
So what did I get out of my evening out? Besides peace from over-tired children, I finally felt a connection to this school year. You spend your time the first few days of school filling out all this paperwork for EACH child and get a very one-sided view of the year from your child. As much as I dread listening to the beginning parts of the evening because, as our principal refers to parents who have been with the school for a while, I am a “veteran parent”, I look forward to getting to see where my child spends most of the day now. Let’s face it during the school year your child’s teacher is the one person who spends the most time with them. Why wouldn’t you want that connection made?
Now I am left to read more information about the upcoming school year and try to wrap my brain around all the new terminology and all that my children will (hopefully) learn in 180 days. I have to be honest, I’m not sure how I made it out of kindergarten!
Now that my connection is made, I feel very ready to tackle this school year. And I think I may need a tutor to survive 3 grade levels of work!
The first day of school is always a time of mixed emotions. And I think it is safe to say not just for the kids but for the parents as well. I am trying to find all the positives of this upcoming school year.
~All three will be at one school.
~This will be the only time my girls will be in the same school and Ella’s class will most likely be Gracie’s “buddy class”.
~(**knock on wood**) I see a light shining in Ella’s eyes that has been dim for so many years.
~Bedtime will no longer be a battle.
~Hunter has won the “Most Responsible” Award for being prepared for the start of school.
This list may be short but for our family it is made up of a lot of huge things. I pray every night that my children will find the good in each day. I want them to see how there is good somewhere in everything they do.
Here is to finding good in something each day xoxo