Weekly Dates

As my kids get older, the quality time we have as a family and even just alone is a minimum.  Each day someone has something going on that takes away from the other two.  After a whirlwind first month of school and getting into our crazy schedule, I am seeing little lights at the end of little tunnels that were once very dark.

I love the time each week I get to have one-on-one time with each of my kids.  By far my youngest gets the best quantity of my time since she has me to herself every afternoon.  But it is during this time I get to see how she is maturing and changing each day.  It is during these afternoons that I love to snuggle with her and let her be her.

I love my weekly dinner dates with my son.  Yes it is usually McDonald’s but I will take a burger and fries with him over anything any day of the week.  He is the only male in the house.  He is the middle child.  He is the one I feel I need to learn how to connect with the most since I am obviously not a male myself…ha!  In our short little date, I find out so much about what is going on in his mind and his world.  This is where I am hoping the lines of communication begins and he knows he can tell me anything.

And as my oldest is changing and trying to find her way as an almost “tween”, I live for our late night drive to and from her one dance class.  I put my pride and guilt aside and recruited help on one night where it is just her and I.  It gives us a chance to just have girl talk.  I am not just mom but a confidant.  I hesitate to use the word “friend” here.  It is such a fine line to walk with any child.  But I think (or hope) that keeping that line drawn will create a special and unique bond that is even better than a friendship.  I see how she is entering into the years of struggling to find herself and to find where she fits in on top of peer pressure and everything else that comes with growing up and I am scared for her.  I know I wouldn’t want to be growing up in this day and age.  It is during this time, I see the amazing young lady she is and this is when she truly confides in me.

I am very proud of myself that I have been able to put aside my guilt, my pride, my desire to do it all aside.  Because let’s face it I can’t and no one can.  I am taking full advantage of my weekly dates more and more as each week passes because I see the small changes they make for each of them and for me.

TGIF

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For the first time in a long time I am so glad it is the end of the week.  For some reason this week was out of the ordinarily crazy!  The scary thing is I only I had 1 of my 3 kiddos for most of the morning too.  Mid-week was a complete blur!  I have no idea where Tuesday and Wednesday went.  I feel like I lost those 2 days. The entire day yesterday I thought it WAS Friday!

I am sitting here trying to think what made it so crazy and honestly nothing.  It seems the older the kids get, the less time I have.  I enjoyed my mornings with just my son.  I enjoyed listening to the girls talk about their mornings.  I enjoyed the fact that I was able to get some work done completely uninterrupted for a decent chunk of time during each afternoon.  I enjoyed cooking dinner each night.  But where did the time go?  How did an entire day go by in the blink of an eye?  How did an entire day go by without any human contact except mainly my children?

This is life with kids and some days are going to go by in the blink of an eye.  Some days will feel like nothing was accomplished.  Some days you will look forward to the day ending.  And some day it will all be missed.

Today I am glad I made it through another week ~ TGIF!